The Throw Back College Paper Part 2 (Rules To Platonic Friendships)

If you guys remember, the college throwback paper was an essay that I wrote in my first year of college titled: Can Men and Women Be Friends and Nothing More. I wrote that paper over 4 years ago and though that is a long time ago, some of the things I wrote in that paper I still stand behind....and the other things, I've been forced to look at differently. As I'm getting older, my ideology has evolved and is something I definitely wanna share. So I've came up with a few things I've concluded and that I find important in keeping a friendship between two people of the opposite sex, platonic. Based on relationships from myself and others, past and present. (Entertainment purposes only.)

-> Not all the friends of your boyfriend/girlfriend are out to fuck em', just some of them. :-)

Theres nothing like your mate having a friend that YOU know wants to be with them (or fuck them).

-->Be aware of the friends that constantly text or call your boyfriend/girlfriend. IDC, that shit is suspect, PAY ATTENTION. That's never a good sign. If they are a friend with good intentions, they wouldnt go so hard.

-->Your partners friends of the opposite sex should have a level of respect for your significant other...(no lines should be crossed). No disrespect! Or that person shouldn't be friends with you if they cant respect the person you are in a relationship with.

-->No one in the relationship should have a bestfriend of the opposite sex AFTER the relationship has begun. I stand firm to that. Your partner should be your bestfriend. NO EXCEPTIONS!!! Only if the bestfriend was there before ya started dating then its fine. If you cant deal with it dont stick around.

-->Your significant other shouldn't be spending money on a friend of the opposite sex unless they are helping them out, its a birthday/xmas present, favor, or anything of an innocent nature. And none of that spending OD amounts of "quality" time with each other. You shouldnt call your man/girl and he or she be like "oh im out with so and so, we at the movies chillen." Basically, ya man/lady went out on a date with her friend. :-/

-->You can like someone for their mind, personality, style, and company but there shouldn't be ANY attraction. Once there is an attraction, it can be hard (depending on how much you are attracted to that person) to curve those feelings. Which might = non sense that dont need to happen.

-->If you start liking or growing feelings for your friend, keep that shit to yourself. 89% of people in relationships (real talk) go back and tell their partner you feeling them. Then you stuck their wondering why your friend's mate don't like yo homewreching ass.

--> You got a friend of the opposite sex that seems to be real cool to talk with and you feel comfortable telling them ANYTHING... Tell them anything but dont tell them secrets about your relationship. Thats never a safe thing to do. The friend can use that against you (which happens often, based on actual findings.)

--> Do not attempt to be friends with the ex thats trying to get back with you. No fucking bueno. I shouldnt even have to elaborate on why this is wrong.

-->Dont be friends with your ex period if they not over you or you not over them....and if thats the case...well, thats a whole 'nother blog. I wont get into that now.

-->Make sure your friends respect your space and privacy.

-->Keep it a hundred in your relationship and in your friendship. Be genuine, considerate, and respectful and you will be able to keep your friends of the opposite sex and your relationship drama free (for the most part)

Notes from the author: I'm not bitter, scarred, insecure, or traumatized. I just know what it takes to have some-what of a drama free relationship. Some of you may not agree with my guidelines or feel that they are way too strict. These are somethings I just thought about to avoid the traps of falling for your friend or having your friend fall for you...more importantly, to not cause confrontation between you and your partner over someone thats just a friend.

With good intentions,

Lazaguncarrier